I thought everyone knew, but I'm slowly realizing that is not the case. I filed for divorce last month and it should be final later this month. Leonard and the kids will continue to stay in the house in Minden and I am getting an apartment in Omaha. Our kids have moved around so much in their short lives. Our boys have never been in the same school two years in a row. We would really like them to have some consistency, so I think staying put is the best option for them. If it doesn't work, we can always make changes later. I travel a lot with work (4 continents this year, not to mention the ones in the country) and am gone quite a bit. I work long hours too, so they are used to that. Leonard has stayed home with them and will continue to do so, something they are used to. Jennifer of course is very upset with the divorce, but likes the arrangement we have come up with better than anything else. The boys don't even know the word divorce, so we aren't using it. They just know Mommy will have an apartment in Omaha and will come see them too. My hope is that if we do things right, by the time they do understand the concept of divorce, it won't matter because they will know we still love them more than anything.
So, if I didn't tell you, it wasn't a secret, just not something that most of us consider happy news and I didn't know how to share it. Leonard doesn't want the divorce, so he has shared with even fewer people than I have. I know in my heart that this is what is best for me though. I will not be happy any other way. I hope my friends will simply accept this choice and not stray away because it's hard enough. I want and need my friends.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
2010
We started 2010 slowly because I just couldn't move at any other pace. Being 9 months pregnant after such early babies was a new experience I don't care to repeat. (I would love more kids, I just don't want to be 9 months pregnant again). On Christmas day, I started having contractions and they lasted for the next month, until he was born. Unfortunately, they weren't productive contractions. Early in January, we learned he was breech and the doctor suspected the baby might be tangled in the umbilical cord was. When I finally went to the hospital on January 24, they said he was still breech and in distress, so we had to do a very quick C-section. I didn't even get to see the end of the Saints play-off game because they went into overtime. It took them less than 30 minutes to decide to do a C-section and get me into surgery. They even started to cut before I was numb, but we stopped that pretty quickly. Turtle is by far the prettiest baby I have every seen. He really should have been a little girl, but he's perfect in every way. He was tangled in the umbilical cord, it was around is neck numerous times and the early photos show the marks. So, being breech was actually a blessing because if hadn't been, it would have been a traditional delivery and we would have probably lost him. I don't think I would have survived that.
He's a week and half old and doing beautiful. He goes to the doctor next week and we'll see how much he's grown. He eats well, so he should have put on weight. He's so good. He sleeps well and has yet to be really fussy. He went to church last night for the first time and was quite content to sleep through my Bible study. His sister and brothers seem to like him. The older boys aren't too interested because he can't play baseball yet, but Elmo and Baby Bear think he is theirs'. Elmo likes to feed him and Baby Bear gets very concerned if he so much as squeaks. They both really like him.
It does look like he may be our last one. We'll see what is in store for us and not make a decision to quickly, but the C-section has taken a lot out of me. I am not Michelle Duggar contrary to what a lot of people think. My body is getting too old for this. It takes too much work to get back into a bikini and I'm not ready to be that old. We shall see though...you never know what Mother Nature has in store for you.
Work is wonderful. I have never had a job I've loved as much as this one. I only have two classes to teach this semester and one is online. I only have 5 students I actually see. I wouldn't know the other 30 if I walked right by them. I have four research articles out for review and am anxiously awaiting verdicts. One of my main goals this year was to have 2-3 scholarly publications. I need 3 for tenure (I can't go up for tenure for another 3 years), but I'd like to have them out of the way. It would take a huge weight off of my shoulders. In the meantime, I'll just keep working on it. I have 3 other articles I'm working on right now. When I get tired of one topic, I switch to another for awhile:) Now you know why I went into special education, I can directly relate to the kids:)
He's a week and half old and doing beautiful. He goes to the doctor next week and we'll see how much he's grown. He eats well, so he should have put on weight. He's so good. He sleeps well and has yet to be really fussy. He went to church last night for the first time and was quite content to sleep through my Bible study. His sister and brothers seem to like him. The older boys aren't too interested because he can't play baseball yet, but Elmo and Baby Bear think he is theirs'. Elmo likes to feed him and Baby Bear gets very concerned if he so much as squeaks. They both really like him.
It does look like he may be our last one. We'll see what is in store for us and not make a decision to quickly, but the C-section has taken a lot out of me. I am not Michelle Duggar contrary to what a lot of people think. My body is getting too old for this. It takes too much work to get back into a bikini and I'm not ready to be that old. We shall see though...you never know what Mother Nature has in store for you.
Work is wonderful. I have never had a job I've loved as much as this one. I only have two classes to teach this semester and one is online. I only have 5 students I actually see. I wouldn't know the other 30 if I walked right by them. I have four research articles out for review and am anxiously awaiting verdicts. One of my main goals this year was to have 2-3 scholarly publications. I need 3 for tenure (I can't go up for tenure for another 3 years), but I'd like to have them out of the way. It would take a huge weight off of my shoulders. In the meantime, I'll just keep working on it. I have 3 other articles I'm working on right now. When I get tired of one topic, I switch to another for awhile:) Now you know why I went into special education, I can directly relate to the kids:)
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